“Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips.” Psalm 141:3
Because the tongue is such a dangerous little member of the body, we could decide to make a vow of silence. Is that the answer? No. Talking is absolutely necessary to maintaining healthy relationships. “Silence is golden” is only the first half of the well-known cliché; the second half concludes “speech is silver.” That sounds like Proverbs 25:11, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.” To say speech is silver implies that speech has significant value. Speech can be and should be the exchange of valuable information and insights. Psalm 49:3 says “My mouth shall speak of wisdom; and the meditation of my heart shall be of understanding.” We should not be silent when we can share words of wisdom and understanding! The Bible describes in Proverbs 31 a woman who “openeth her mouth in wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” The woman in Titus 2:4 is instructed to teach. Speech is silver! And silence is not always golden, not when it is used as retaliation. Silence is not golden when we use it to allow another to be criticized or have their character attacked. Silence is not golden when it results in undesirable decisions. Prayer was taken out of schools because too many people refused to speak up. Pray for discernment in speech and silence.